Aggressive anger is a driving anger that is openly expressed by feelings of frustration, hostility and resentment. The person feeling this type of anger acts out on it regardless of the consequences. They do not care who or what they hurt in the process. This type of person has trouble controlling and dealing with their emotions. Those who have aggressive anger many times need professional help in coping and controlling it.
Here are some of the main characteristics associated with aggressive anger:
1. Threats- Threatening people is a common symptom of aggressive anger. Threats are used not only to frighten someone but also to explain how you will harm their property, loved ones or prospects in life. Threats can range from saying something in an aggressive fashion to putting your finger or fist in someone's face to invoke fear. Other threatening behavior includes wearing clothing and using symbols representing violence, behavior like tailgating and slamming things like doors all the time.
2. Hurtfulness- This is an obvious one. The level of hurt can range from actual physical violence causing harm, abuse including verbal and sexual, ignoring others feelings, willful discrimination, casting blame on others, punishing people for no good reasons, labeling others
3. Destructiveness- Any displays of destructive behavior including destroying objects and property of others. Harming animals, destroying relationships between other people, reckless behavior included but not only substance abuse.
4. Bullying - Includes threatening people directly whether physically or emotionally, Using one's power and strength against another they perceive as weaker, playing on peoples weaknesses to get an upper hand
5. Unjust Blame - Blaming innocent people for things they did not do or for things you did, blaming others for how you feel, using accusations against people
6. Manic Behavior - Constant mood swings and behavior. Symptoms can include walking and talking too fast, workaholic and expecting others to be the same, speeding and over spending money.
7. Grandiosity - This type of behavior includes a distorted view of one's self of grander based on an inflated ego. It manifests in showing off, distrust, having to be the center of attention all the time, being a sore loser, not listening to others, talking over others heads, expecting to kiss and make up as a solution to ones problems with another.
8. Selfishness-Self absorbed, not caring about the needs of others,
Behavior like jumping lines because of the feeling they don't have to wait like everyone else
9. Vengeance- Always plotting revenge. Harbors grudges will not forgive or forget, likes to get even for no good reason
10. Unpredictability- explosive and violent reactions to even little mishaps, indiscriminate attacks, inflicting unwarranted harm on others, illogical arguments, a substance abuser
Anger is one of those emotions that left unaddressed can lead to great problems. There are constructive ways to release anger that are actually healthy. Its uncontrollable aggressive anger that is problematic if its reasons are not handled before they become out of hand.