Just as there are different types of happiness the same is with anger. Anger for the most part is broken down into two categories. The categories are Passive and Aggressive anger. Here a look at Passive anger.
Passive Anger is expressing ones anger in a quieter manner usually at someone else's expense. Passive anger may be expressed in terms of repressed angry with an angry person. It may not be overtly expressed by the person experiencing this type of inner anger. It comes out in subtle behaviors such as in constantly whining or depression.
There are 8 outward behaviors associated with passive anger they are:
1. Secretive Behavior- With this type of anger the angry person may talk to someone like nothing is wrong holding their feelings in; and then talk bad behind the persons back. Secretive behavior in terms of anger includes giving someone the silent treatment, muttering under one's breath, avoiding eye contact, putting people down, gossiping, giving anonymous complaints, poison pen letters and stealing and conning the person they are angry with.
2. Psychological Manipulation- This type of behavior uses provocation to the point where the person becomes aggressive and then the provoker patronizes the person they provoke for getting to that point. Another way this is done is to provoke the person to the point of aggression and then step back and watch what happens. Other forms of psychological manipulation includes emotional blackmail, using false tears to get what you want, pretending to be sick, sabotaging relationships, using sexual provocation, using a third party to convey negative feelings to a person as well as holding back someone's money or resources.
3. Self Blame- A person who uses self blame is always apologizing is overly critical of others as well as inviting self criticism. This type also invites others to criticize themselves and others as well.
4. Self Sacrifice- Self sacrificers always take second best or a back seat to others. They are over helpful. Self Sacrificers show quiet signs of their suffering but will not do anything about it. Likewise the eat ingratitude like a starving puppy.
5. Ineffectualness- This type of anger involves setting one's self and others up for failure. Ineffectualness includes things like dealing with and choosing people who are unreliable on purpose, being prone to accidents, underachieving, sexual impotence, getting angry and frustrated at insignificant things while ignoring those things that are actually deserving of annoyance and anger.
6. Dispassion-This includes giving cold shoulders, being phony to others, showing no concern in situations that warrant it, refusing to make a decision, letting others make a decision that you should make while you sit on the fence, dampening emotions with substance abuse, over eating and sleeping, not responding to another's anger, frigidity, sexual activities that are not spontaneous and their partner sexually is viewed as an object. Those displaying dispassion give abnormal amounts of time to machinery and equipment. They pursue intellectual things and may talk of being frustrated but actually showing no emotions.
7. Obsessive Behavior- This type of behavior usually demands perfection. Obsessive types have behavior that involves being extremely neat and clean to a fault, make a habit of checking and rechecking things, do everything in extreme. For example if and obsessive person diets they over diet maybe even to starvation or if the eat they over eat etc. There behavior is always extreme there is no moderation with them. It's all one way or another.
8. Evasiveness- Are those who turn a blind eye in the middle of a crisis, avoiding conflict, not arguing back and becoming phobic.
These are the general signs of passive anger. Passive anger is caused by the need to have control without the least amount of accountability for one's actions. It is different from suppressed anger in that all these things are done intentionally to provoke another. When one has suppressed anger they do not consciously express it to the target that they feel causes the anger.